December 16, 2012
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Things to consider during a potential breakup
1. The longer you stay in, the harder it is to get out.
-I know from my past experiences I always relived through the past. I wanted to relive those good memories, and because of that it always gave me a false sense of hope. I thought “maybe, these memories could happen again if I just stay in a little longer.” But most of the time, if things are going downhill and there’s not hope for a change it’s time to get out.2. Fearing the “routine” is normal.
-What I mean by “fearing the routine” is the thought of not seeing your significant other (ex. texting them, calling them, seeing them, and etc.) People tend to fear a rapid change, and the thought of your sigificant other suddenly being in your life less, or out of your life completely is scary. That’s normal, and with time (I know, the whole time thing is cliche) it will get better. You just have to give yourself a chance.3. Trying doesn’t always work.
-If you’re busting your butt in your relationship and nothing is changing, that’s a major sign (obviously) that something is wrong. If your significant other doesn’t care to try, or they’re trying too and things just don’t seem to be working, it might be time to say goodbye.4. History does NOT define a relationship.
-I know history can play a huge factor in whether or not someone decides to end a relationship. This should not be a reason to stay in a bad relationship. History afterall is in the past, and history does have a tendency to repeat itself. If there are more bad things than good in your relationship, it’s time to move on. There might have been good things, but like I said, history repeats itself. Plus, no matter who you meet, you will make history with them. Perhaps if you move on, you will find someone that makes things better than your current relationship.5. Wandering feelings.
-If you feel urges to flirt because you feel like you’re not receiving affection or vital emotions from your significant other I would highly suggest talking things out. If things don’t change, and the urges still remain just remember, if a person is tempting enough, urges could very easily turn into actions..and your actions could turn into regret or a lack of regret with continuous actions. If you just want to flirt because you’re naturally a flirtacious person, cut that shi* out.6. Breaks.
-If you take a break from your significant other and find yourself happier than being in the actual relationship, it’s time to move on.
Comments (8)
I can relate to this quite a bit. Haha.
aiya… I sadly and humbly agree.
In any long term relationship, you are going to have times where you would be happier apart. But things come and go.
Great advice, my friend. I will definitely be thinking of you and the things you have talked to me about during my trip.
@Dustin_wind - it sucks doesn’t it?
@KenxanderDaGr8 - >_
@TheTheologiansCafe - it’s hard to figure out what the right decision is sometimes :/
@makesenseofmadness - best of luck! I’ll talk to you every step of the way when you’re there!!
@nihaokeisha – yess it sure does. but life has a way of rewarding you for making the right decisions. even the tough ones like breaking up with someone.
@Dustin_wind - you’re definitely correct on that one!! Life is awesome that way isn’t it!?
@nihaokeisha - It most definitely is. I certainly learned that. Although I learned it the hard way and it took 2.5 years for life to reward me for my decisions lol.