February 21, 2013
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Insensitive User’s of the Web/Laytexduckie is the bees knees…super long blog title.
One obvious thing about that internet that I’m sure everyone has experienced in one form or another is the lack of its sensitivity. In fact, it’s such a norm online to automatically throw judgments and have a lack of compassion towards individuals that people don’t really even see the people of the internet as people.
Ever since @Laytexduckie had his post published on Datingish, I have been frequenting it to be shocked and horrified over how rude people are being towards him.
Don’t get me wrong, I, as well as many other users have at one point showed a lack of humanity, compassion, or any other heartfelt emotion when it came to certain things online. I know that sometimes it can be hard because there isn’t a physical body in front of people, but just a digital trace of somebody’s presence somewhere else.
It’s human nature to throw judgments and critical opinions at and towards people…but still…why can’t it just stop? I wish that this very dark quality would be vanquished within everyone.
I know that everyone has an idea, opinion, and thought of their own..but there are ways to express them without being so harsh. Going back to @Laytexduckie‘s Datingish post, the comments on there very blatantly stated their thoughts on his unfortunate situation. Some people automatically assumed he was fishing for sympathy, or was being pathetic. Without being in the situation yourself, or knowing him personally, why would you so carelessly throw word daggers towards someone’s emotions?
You might not necessarily agree with what he has to say, but why be such a (excuse my French) a raging prude dickasaurus?
I’ve seen this behavior everywhere imaginable, and it’s really sad. On Youtube, blogs, news websites, and etc. People really just don’t care.
I’ve been aware of this for as long as I’ve been a user of the internet, and like I’ve said earlier, I used to be like that. But to be honest, I don’t really know what struck me about @Laytexduckie‘s post that made me really upset. Maybe it’s because I consider him a good Xangan friend, or maybe I just decided to really see what’s been happening online with a clear mind. Either way, I just want all of you to know that just because the norm of the internet is to lack feelings, it doesn’t mean you have to follow the crowd.
People are people, no matter if all you see are the words, pictures, or videos they’ve shared. Be kind and play nice. This isn’t elementary school anymore, we should have learned that words can hurt sometimes.
Comments (4)
Thank you. I’m glad we’re good Xangan friends.
I feel that it’s just that some people do no understand the situation. It could because the context is so different and unheard of (a man being the victim in an abusive relationship), or that they simply feel like no empathy whatsoever. I’m no saint myself, as a few times, I would leave some baseless comment. But, I think what surprises me more besides the irrelevant comments are the comments who feel that because there was no blood, no bruising, no cops called, that it doesn’t count as abuse. Could it be because I’m the guy and that they think I deserved it just by that criteria alone? Because if it was the female being slapped by the man, being screamed at, pushed, shoved, had her items destroyed, people would call for her ass to be handed to him.
What it boils down to is that there are some people who do not understand the full idea of what it’s like to be stuck in an abusive relationship, and there are some who just simply do not care.
I want to say thank you for being a supporting and attentive friend.
It used to really get at me that people would say horrible things about me on xanga. People on the internet can sometimes lack accountability and say things they would never say in real life.
I agree with laytexduckie, the insensitivity had to do with the fact that he is male. If the situation were reversed, sure there would have been a few insensitive comments that ignored the message of his post (why didn’t you leave, it wasn’t that bad etc), but not nearly the number his post received.
First time visitor. Not sure what happened that you’re referring to, but I do like your poster here.