January 1, 2013
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Fuc*ed up Bul*shi*
Okay, now I’m just going to have to rant about my cousin’s death now.
I’ve been talking to my cousin Alien (yes Alien) about Ting Shuang’s death. He had no idea, nor did his mother. His mother ends up calling Ting Shuang’s grandma, and it turns out that she has been deceased for THREE to FOUR months. Are you fucking kidding me right now?
I understand that they wanted to keep her death away from the family for a little while. In Taiwan, it is said that when your child dies, it’s considered very bad luck (obviously). So, the thing is, they don’t tell anyone about it because people don’t want to “catch” their bad luck. But REALLY!? You’re going to keep something like this from your own family? I mean, why wait 3-4 months before telling them?! That is complete and utter bullshit.
(Btw, I got a little more detail on my cousin’s death. Her and her boyfriend were on a motorcycle, when they had the accident.)
It’s so infuriating. I feel like such a piece of shit. I feel like, I should have been mourning three to four months ago in respects to my cousin. Not three to four months after it has happened.
To be honest, I don’t feel sad or depressed. I’m more confused and angry. I mean, I guess I don’t 100% understand Taiwan’s culture. But (before I was born), when my mom’s nephews died at early ages (in their twenties) everyone found at as soon as it happened. If it were delayed, then probably a few days afterwards. I’m just shocked that family would withold information like this for such a long time.
I mean, what exactly did they think would happen? If people asked about her at a family gathering? Would they act as if she were still alive? Or were they expecting to break the news to everyone then in a nonchalant way? I’m just..I’m at a loss for words. I just don’t know what to think anymore.
Comments (18)
Don’t feel like a piece of shit. It wasn’t your fault that you didn’t know about it a few months ago. I’ve never heard about that “death curse” thing, so I’m not too sure how to think of it. I’m still sorry that it happened and that you had to find out that way.
@laytexduckie - I’m sorry that it happened too :/ I’m so confused, my brain doesn’t really know how to translate all of this. I guess, even though it’s not my fault I didn’t know, I feel like a piece of shit because she deserved more respect than to be such a secret.
@nihaokeisha - I understand. Still, don’t blame yourself. You can’t really turn back time, but you can still mourn and do the best to give her a proper burial.
@laytexduckie - You’re right, it’s just sooooo difficult. I’m sure after a good night’s rest I’ll be better at thinking about all of this chaos.
@nihaokeisha - Sometimes, there’s no reason to overthink it. And certainly, a clear head is all it takes to simply make sense of it. Try sleeping on it and see how you feel in the morning.
@laytexduckie - hopefully I feel a million times better >_<
@nihaokeisha - Hopefully. We shall see…
Sorry to hear about this
my family members can be superstitious about other things, though I haven’t heard about a death curse per se (I’m from India). All the same, I hope that you get the chance to grieve as much as you need.
I’ve never really understood that part of Taiwanese culture either.
@QuantumStorm - thank you, I hope I can as well. It’s weird how fast things can change in one moment.
@Dustin_wind - yeah, it makes no sense to me at all.
Most traditions make no sense outside their culture.
Is that you in the background doing the dance?
@TheTheologiansCafe - I freaking know! X.x And yes, that is me
Ok. Now you have to post a video of you dancing. That would be awesome.
@TheTheologiansCafe - that’s actually the only thing I know how to do xD I’ll still make a video though!
Ok. Make sure I don’t miss it.
@TheTheologiansCafe - I’ll spam you with links
Awesome.